The ReSource Yourself Blog
Small stories from a world of possibilities
How to Help – When We Can’t Help
Being present for others' suffering One of the hardest things is to watch someone we love struggle, and not being able to help. For example, seeing your child sick or angry, and knowing things have to take its course, there is nothing you can do to speed it up or...
The beauty of being seen – How to bring about more closeness in our relationships.
Lately I’ve been very aware of the fact that what we really want in our relationships is closeness. So maybe you’re lucky and when you ask yourself, “do I feel close (enough) to the people I love”, the answer is yes. But maybe you have to answer no, even though you...
The Role of the Psychologist – Love in Therapy
What makes a therapist really good? For a few years now, when you ask me what is the one most important thing that distinguishes a good therapist, I have been answering LOVE. Now that sounds a little extreme, you think? When you are loving and accepting with the...
Family Constellations: Our Ancestors May Influence Our Success
I love growing as a therapist and a human being. My newest source of inspiration is a course of family constellations, a systemic method which rather than looking only at the individual, tries to give solutions to difficult symptoms or problems in the light of the...
Understanding Emotions and Motivation: Insight through Family Constellations
Understanding Emotions and Motivation: Insight through Family Constellations I love growing as a therapist and a human being. My newest source of inspiration is a course of family constellations, a systemic method which rather than looking only at the individual,...
Relationships: Love is… all or nothing
When I first started dating I learned a valuable lesson that keeps coming back to me in crucial moments in my live. I started seeing that American guy who was older, quite traditional, and more experienced then I. We went on our first date to a restaurant in...
When Things fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
Just a great book to read Having a son was one of the best things that ever happened in my life. It turned my world upside down. It challenged me in so many ways, it brought me to my limits and past them so many times, and sometimes it let me fail with my ideals in...
The difference between pain and suffering
Wouldn’t we all like to live a life free of pain? I am sure we would, but it’s just not possible. But does that mean we have to suffer? No. Pain is an integral part of life, and it all depends how we live it. What is pain anyway? Basically, it is a sensation in our...
Helping our Children – By Helping Ourselves
I have never worried in a similar way than how I worry about my son. Likewise, I could say, that I have never loved in a similar way, and never gotten to my limits and been confronted with myself in a similar way. My wish to help my son grow and for him to be happy...
No more rush!
One of my clients went back to work with a proposition that I really like: "No more rush!" I really like the idea! I don't know about you, but when I came back from vacation, my batteries were recharged, I felt strong and was in a good mood and had this sense of...
Acceptance and Happiness – Meditation Tool and a Way of Life
Acceptance is the key to a happy life. But in our everyday life we find many examples of rejection. We reject ourselves and others. We look into the mirror and think “I’m so fat!”, or we ride our car and get angry because someone squeezed in just in front of us....
I am and I feel happy – a testimony
Let go of fears, change the way you see yourself, feel worthy, free and happy - that's possible! Many times I get to know people who look at me with eyes wide open when I tell them that there is a solution, that change is possible, and that it doesn't have to be...
The Secret of Letting Go
Most of us have had the experience of hearing a friend, teacher, or family member say "It's easy, you just have to let go!". As if it were so easy! If you've had that experience, than you are probably familiar with the consequent anger and frustration, and maybe...
Letting Go of Conflict – When and How?
Conflict as a wound We all know this: A conflict with our neighbor, a friend, a client or provider, a situation that is very hard to bear and can leave a bitter taste even after a long time has passed. The conflict escalates, the person we deal with insults us,...
EFT / Tapping: How to Open Your Heart to Love
Ever wondered why you feel blocked, fearful, suspicious, nervous or distrusting in a personal or close and potentially positive relationship context? I just got an email from Nicolas Ortner (www.TheTappingSolution.com). He shares a process that helps you to open...
